Author: Terry Malatji

There Is Power in Intentional Parenting

How did I do it? How on earth did I manage to accomplish so much under challenging physical conditions? How did I successfully achieve my parental goals while navigating personal struggles? How did I find the strength to wake up, get my children ready for school, prepare their meals, drive them to and from school, and still bring joy to their innocent faces, especially when my body felt incapable of even the simplest tasks? The answer lies in the power of intentional parenting.

There were countless times when, despite feeling unwell, I fulfilled my role as a mother, comforter, motivator, cheerleader and life coach. For reasons beyond understanding, I became a “super mom” until my parental duties were complete. The moment I finished, my body would return to its ill state.

At times, the symptoms vanished entirely. And let’s not forget the physical and emotional toll of PMS and other challenges unique to women. This is the reality for many mothers. One day, we will discuss the societal abuse of feminine energy, the trauma it carries, and the path to healing, but that is not the focus of this article.

Despite being generally healthy, I have experienced physical and mental challenges worth mentioning. There have been times when I recovered quickly, not due to faith alone but because of an unwavering love for my children and a deep, intentional desire to be present for them in every way – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This powerful intention fuelled my resilience, serving as the faith I needed to keep going.

The power of intentional parenting becomes deeply embedded in our subconscious, working for us when we need it most. Over the years, I have built a foundation as an intentional mother and it has yielded incredible rewards. For some, the much-needed support comes from friends and family. Regardless of the source, intentional parenting creates an internal energy that fortifies us against life’s challenges.

There were times when my illnesses should have lasted longer, but they didn’t because my deep desire and intention to be present in my children’s lives overpowered them. Some challenges passed through me, while others passed without touching me, simply because of the energy I carried as an intentional parent.

When I lacked motivation to pursue my professional goals, the thought of my children and my commitment to leaving behind a strong legacy became my internal motivational speaker. This intention didn’t just inspire me; it empowered me with the attributes necessary for achieving my life’s purpose. There are countless rewards for parents who intentionally dedicate themselves to this role—some tangible, others spiritual.

The Blessings of Intentional Parenting

Mothers are naturally gifted with both physical and spiritual attributes that enable them to conceive, birth, and nurture a child. These qualities are rooted in feminine energy. However, intentional mothers receive these gifts in abundance. Some are naturally intentional, while others must cultivate the ability.

When we consciously choose to become parents, we form an unspoken covenant between us and the universe. We make a commitment to our parental responsibilities. This decision creates a powerful internal energy that attracts the essential resources needed to raise our children. In doing so, we invite support from the universe, including divine co-creators such as angels, spirit guides, and ancestors, who collaborate with us when we parent with intention.

This power is not limited to mothers alone. It is available to anyone who chooses to be an intentional parent, regardless of gender. I encourage you to embark on this journey with purpose and awareness.

The Benefits of Intentional Parenting

Intentional parenting:

• Initiates a journey of self-discovery, self-development, self-empowerment, and self-healing, not only for ourselves but for our children and future generations.
• Heals family lineage by breaking cycles of abandonment and trauma caused by dysfunctional parenting.
• Reveals our strengths and weaknesses, inspiring personal growth for the benefit of our children.
• Encourages us to be present, allowing us to fully experience and enjoy our children’s milestones.
• Attracts the necessary attributes needed for effective parenting.
• Enhances our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being.
• Creates responsible, effective parents who contribute to a healthier society.
• Enables us to go beyond the ordinary and embrace the extraordinary.

How to Become an Intentional Parent

1. Understand the Power of Intention

Intention is the foundation of goal achievement and one of the key tools of creation. I discuss this concept in-depth in Principles & Tools of Creation, to be published soon. The word intend means to have in mind as a purpose or goal. Convert your position of being a parent by default into a daily goal or purpose or a calling that you must fulfil.

2. Set Clear Parenting Goals

• Learn and understand what it takes to become a better mother.
• What activities must you carry on daily basis to raise your children?
• What resources must you acquire to raise your children?

3. Use Affirmations and Declarations
Move beyond default parenting and create an intentional identity with words. Affirmations are powerful tools of creation that align us with co-creators in both the physical and spiritual realms. Some examples include:

• I receive with gratitude the calling of being a parent to X & Y.
• I embrace my responsibilities with love and dedication.
• I affirm my ability to carry out my duties diligently.
• I receive and embody the physical and spiritual attributes essential for my parenting role.
• I am a patient, loving and present mother.
• I create a safe and nurturing space for my children to grow.
• I guide my children with wisdom, understanding and kindness.
• I trust my intuition to make the best decisions for my children.
• I am a source of strength and inspiration for my family.
• I raise my children with love, confidence and intentionality.
• I am growing and evolving into the best mother I can be.
• I attract the knowledge, resources and support I need to be an amazing parent.
• My love, presence and guidance shape my children’s future in a positive way.
• I honor and respect my role as a mother and embrace it with gratitude.

4. Develop a Parenting Plan

• Constantly reinforce your parenting intention until it becomes second nature.
• Write down the physical and spiritual attributes you need to succeed as a parent.
• Meditate on your affirmations to reprogram your mindset and align your energy with your goals.

The Manifestation of Intentional Parenting

The process of manifestation begins with thoughts. We attract what we focus on. Affirmations help us rewire our thoughts, but action must follow. True creation is a process, and the time it takes to manifest effective parenting abilities varies from person to person.

If you are ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth to enhance your parenting skills, I offer personalized life coaching at your own pace. Additionally, we provide guidance on self-healing to help release any limiting beliefs or energy blocks hindering your parenting success.

Final words

To all the mothers who have defied the odds and continued to nurture their children under difficult circumstances, I see and honor you. To all the mothers who have embraced their parenting roles with intention and dedication I appreciate and celebrate you.  I dedicate Babyface’s Standing Ovation to you.